Eighth Graders Gain Confidence and Find Their Voice Through Self-Defense

Holton’s eighth graders participated in a self-defense workshop led by instructors from Defend Yourself, a program that has partnered with the School for more than 20 years. The session allowed students to explore real-world strategies for setting boundaries, trusting their instincts, and speaking up for themselves–skills they have been building all year in eighth grade Seminar. 

“Self-defense training connects deeply with what we have been teaching the students all year,” says Middle School Counselor Kristen Edma. “In Seminar, we focus on advocacy, assertiveness, identity development, and awareness of their bodies and boundaries. We also talk about consent and healthy relationships, and we want students to feel prepared for moments when they may find themselves alone or in situations where they need to protect themselves.”

For eighth graders preparing to transition to Upper School, the timing is especially meaningful. Through discussion and role-playing, students practice how to respond to uncomfortable situations and how to clearly communicate their boundaries.

“Middle schoolers are learning how to speak up for themselves with peers, teachers, parents, and other adults,” Edma explains. “Self-defense training helps them clearly express boundaries, say ‘no,’ and ask for what they need.”

The workshop also encourages students to think more realistically about safety. “Most uncomfortable situations don’t involve strangers. They more often involve people we know,” Edma says. “The training helps students trust their instincts, speak up early, and practice using clear verbal skills to set boundaries.”

Above all, Edma hopes students leave the workshop with one key takeaway: “Use your voice. Your voice is a powerful thing, sometimes even more powerful than a physical response.”